Write a Love Letter to Yourself. You Deserve It.
It’s been a long road to where you’ve ended up and it hasn’t been easy at times. It’s easy to minimize your accomplishments when you compare them to others’ achievements. Yours can seem trivial, even insignificant but they’re not.
Along the way, you’ve learned how to be your own person. You’ve become a strong, independent person who has realized that you don’t need someone in your life. Take comfort in knowing that. Take comfort in knowing that the person who does get to share your adventures is there because he adds to your life, not because he completes you. You’re complete on your own.
Listen to those who tell you good things about yourself. Don’t discount their praise and don’t minimize their encouragement. Be kind to yourself. Why would you forgive others so easily but punish yourself so harshly? Life is too short to be reminding yourself about your shortcomings rather than focusing on your strengths.
Learn how to figure out what’s worth fighting for and when it’s time to move on. Most times it will be hard and you may doubt yourself but ask yourself this question: “Is this where you want to be in 5 years? 10 years? 6 months?” If the idea of being in the same place, doing the same thing scares you, start working on extricating yourself.
Be proud of who you are. No one’s path through life is exactly the same as someone else’s. There is no right or wrong way. There will be setbacks, challenges and unexpected tangents so go with things. Trust that the riht thing for you is happening and when something goes awry, it’s to make way for something even better to enter your life.
You’re smart and creative and have so much to offer. Appreciate your talents; try to see yourself through the eyes of others. A non-success is only a failure if you don’t honestly try again to succeed. Before you give up and walk away, make sure that’s the outcome you want.
It takes character and a strong moral compass to do the right thing. Don’t lose sight of who you are in those moments. Make the choices that will allow you to sleep at night. Even the strongest of people encounter challenges that make the decision difficult to make.
Most importantly, have fun. Live life. Don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. Life won’t wait for you to be ready and you may only ever get one opportunity so take it. For those adventures that you know you’ll never experience, surround yourself with people who will. Relish the opportunity to live vicariously through other. Let them into your life; they’ll bring perspectives and moments that may result in some or most cherished memories.
Anything is possible and you’re capable of more than you realize. Don’t be afraid to try something new.
Make your life one that is full of laughter and happiness but most of all, be your own best friend. As long as you have your sense of humour and the willingness to try new things you’ll be okay.
© Sandra O’Driscoll 2012